Tools for Men
The greatest power you have over your marital relationship is your ability to change your own behavior. If you change your behavior in ways that make your wife feel cared for, she will have more positive feelings toward you. These feelings will help her develop the internal motivation she needs to make desirable changes in her own behavior. This is the funnest way to get your spouse to change (for both of you). Criticism of your wife, on the other hand, will not help her to have generous feelings for you. The tools on this page will help you to make the changes in yourself that will have the greatest positive impact on your relationship, without making your wife feel criticized.
Wife’s Relationship Needs. Print this list and carry it with you to remind you of your wife’s relationship needs.
Emotional Bank Account Worksheet. If you and your wife are working on your marriage romance together, you can each use this form to spark communication and direct your efforts at meeting each other’s needs.
