Emotional Bank Account

List 7 things that your spouse willingly does, even occasionally, that increase your appreciation, enjoyment, or desire for him or her. 

List 7 things in the left column below that you do or are willing to do on a regular basis that you believe would help your spouse to appreciate, enjoy, or desire you more.

Discuss your lists with your spouse. If your spouse has filled out a copy of this worksheet, you may add items from his or her first list to the right column of your second list. Have your spouse number the items in your second list from most to least helpful.

Make deposits into your spouse’s emotional bank account (love bank) by consistently and frequently doing the thing on your second list. Also be sure to express sincere appreciation for the deposits your spouse makes into your emotional bank account.

After a few weeks fill out a new copy of this worksheet with your spouse, and discuss how your feelings of love for each other have increased.