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Romance is . . .
Romance exists in a marriage when husband and wife are attracted to each other (or desire each other) and care for each other. The combination of attraction and caring creates the feeling of being “in love” with your mate.
To increase romance in marriage, you need to create mutual feelings of caring and attraction. You can do this by meeting your spouse’s most important relationship needs and helping him or her to meet yours.
Meet Your Spouse’s Needs
Become the man or woman of your spouse’s dreams by meeting his or her 7 basic relationship needs. These are the 7 secrets of staying forever in love:
1. Respect
2. Appreciation
3. Companionship
4. Spiritual Solidarity
5. Domestic Support
6. To Feel Cherished
7. Sensuous Affection
Like a tender plant, your mate’s romantic nature can fully blossom only in a nurturing environment. You are the gardener. Learn how to cultivate your spouse’s romantic nature by visiting the garden of romance and smart talk pages. Then learn some specific ways to help your spouse better meet your 7 basic relationship needs.
If you need a little help getting started, try the tools for men or tools for women.
It is so essential to keep alive the spark in marriage and this can be done if you keep doing small, romantic things for your partner. It is actually the romance and understanding that can make your marriage going strong even after many years. The seven points you have mentioned are absolutely necessary.
My wife is my best friend we share everything recently ive been really romantic and ive not pushed for sex she is not the stong sexuall type and ive gotten use to this. I dont do well wit rejection she knws this as well as we tell each other everything. We have great days together days tht would capped off well with love making. This never happens my advances are always declined i fear she does not see me as her previous partner whom sge has addmitted they were really wild i am jelous and would love tht side of her. She i always tired when tht time comes around my heart is hurtin from this. We are young and fun why is everthing else great but tht part of our life is not as i wish. She kws this to but still denys me and knws my attitude changes from lack of intimacy. Am i being stubborn or she selfish mind u she never comes on to me . Im at my wits end i can not keep this up cause its important to me. How can someone always use sleep as an excuse is tht not a sign id be wrong to cheat. And i wont wht can i do i need help or i will not stay in a relationship tht does not fulfill my needs. I dont ask for anything abd im not begging for sex once in a month maybe twice is not enough she knws this too so knwing this and still denying me is sayin alot about her care of my needs.
I don’t necessarily view romance as being about attraction. Over time you will find physical attraction wanes and what attracted you to this person in the first place e.g. sense of humour, work ethic, etc, begins to annoy you. Romance to me is 100% a show of appreciation for the other. This means doing something you know the other will like/love in an act to demonstrate your appreciation for them. This is why men who give red lacy g-strings to their wives of 20 years get nothing but a raised eyebrow. However, a man that shouts his wife of 20 years and her best friend a meal at a nice restaurant for a “girls night out” is more likely to be viewed favourably. What do others think?
I read these sites about relationships, and they are all about the most sexist advice ever.
To me romance is all one sided, and why do women get all the romance for them. I think it would be nice if a wife or girlfriend, took out their man somewhere and was active in the relationship.
Also this whole thing about women needing love, attention, romance before sex, well it’s a myth made up by relationship gurus who just want to sell books to brainwashed people.
Men are always having to prove love to women, are women that insecure? Healthy ones are not.