A Husband’s Relationship Needs
RESPECT
__Do I treat him as I would want to be treated?
__In my tone of voice, choice of words, and behavior, do I show him at least as much respect as I would a coworker, boss, or other important person?
__Do I interpret his words charitably when he says something that could be interpreted negatively?
__Do I keep sensitive areas of our relationship confidential?
__Do I use “smart talk” principles when we have a disagreement?
__Do I tell him how much I respect and value him?
__Am I honest with him?
__Am I emotionally faithful to him?
__Do I dress attractively when I am with him?
APPRECIATION
__Do I express abundant and sincere gratitude for the many big and little things he does?
__Do I express appreciation for him with visual and physical affection?
__Do I appreciate his financial contributions, even though we never seem to have enough?
COMPANIONSHIP
__Do I spend time with him in conversation and recreational activities?
__Do I make a habit of being optimistic and cheerful when I am with him?
__Do I avoid complaining, sarcasm, and speaking in a tired or negative manner?
__Do we have hobbies that we enjoy together?
__Do I spend as much time listening as speaking when we are together?
__Do I make an effort to talk about things that interest him?
SPIRITUAL SOLIDARITY
__Do I support him in his values, rather than undermining them?
__Do I seek truth and goodness together with him?
__Do I work with him in learning better ways to parent the children?
__Do we pray together?
__Do I pray for his safety, success and happiness?
DOMESTIC SUPPORT
__Do I keep a budget together with him, and avoid overspending?
__Do I work to keep a clean and comfortable home?
TO FEEL CHERISHED
__Do I make him my highest priority, above friends, work, hobbies, and children?
__Do I care tenderly for him, and try to help him feel safe and loved?
__Do I avoid speaking sarcastically or sharply to him?
__Do I focus on the good in him despite his flaws?
__Am I cheerful with him, and avoid holding love hostage?
__Do I rejoice with him in his successes?
__Do I give him plenty of attention?
__Do I surprise him with extra physical attention occasionally?
SENSUOUS AFFECTION
__Do I give him sensuous affection in ways that he can understand and appreciate?
__Do I practice good hygiene?
__Do I keep myself physically fit and attractive?
__Do I smile warmly and often at him?
__Do I use a pleasant voice?
__Do I practice good posture and walk gracefully?
__Do I occasionally use makeup in a way that he finds attractive?
__Do I let him advise me on my wardrobe?
__Do I keep his view of my body special?
__Do I flirt with him?
__Do I give him plenty of sexual affection?
